I started keeping a journal almost five years ago ... It has evolved and changed directions many times ... but always, it contained random truths and scattered epiphanies about HEALING! Lately, through the feedback of friends, I have realized that HEALING is MUCH BIGGER than just overcoming or surviving ...
HEALING is the UNIVERSAL PAIN REMEDY!
Life isn't always easy. You can be sailing along on a perfectly calm sea on the prettiest day and suddenly everything changes ... DEVASTATING HURT and EXCRUTIATING PAIN replace every good feeling you were just feeling.
I was a victim of domestic violence, but there are all sorts of victims! Maybe, you suffered some other kind of abuse? Maybe, you abused yourself with drugs and alcohol? Maybe, you are struggling to survive cancer? Maybe, you have suffered the loss of a loved one? Maybe, you were in a car accident or a natural disaster?
We all have personal tragedies that stop us in our tracks. We're stuck in a PLACE we have never been before and IT HURTS! IT HURTS REALLY BAD! All of the sudden, your world turns dark ...
BUT THAT'S NOT THE END!
It's in that dark place that you can find the DEEPEST HEALING! YOU really can be YOUR OWN HERO! God gave YOU a powerful spirit. You may have forgotten it, but it's still there. YOU can gather all the HOPE and HEALING that is already inside you ... You already have your answers. YOU CAN FIND THEM.
I had to clear away some rubbish to get to my answers! Have you ever put something in a SAFE PLACE and then, forgot where you put it? That's what it's like!
Shhhhhhh ... Don't worry! Shhhhhhh ... It will be okay. Shhhhhhh ... I'll help you look!
HEALING CAME TO ME AND IT CAN COME TO YOU,
NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE ...
NO MATTER WHAT YOUR PAIN IS ...
NO MATTER WHEN IT HAPPENED ...
NO MATTER WHY IT HURTS ...
NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW ...
HEALING CAN COME TO YOU
ANY TIME YOU CHOOSE!
I publish this blog in four different locations to try to reach as many people as possible. It is working! Since I started counting only a few months ago, my blog just crossed the 5,000 reads mark! I have heard from the most amazing people! Some of you have shared your personal stories. Some of you have written the sweetest notes, telling me that I helped you. Some of you have asked really good questions that impacted the topics we covered ...
If you are new to this blog, maybe, my words or the words of my friends will help you start the HEALING process? Maybe, they'll encourage you along the way? Maybe, I will remind you of a darker time in your own life, and like me, you will be thankful that those memories were lessons learned in the distant past?
This blog is made up of:
- my personal story and the stories of other survivors.
- excerpts from helpful books that you may explore further on your own.
- links to excellent web-sites and resources.
It is my hope that they will be useful in your own HEALING. My intention is to be informative and offer encouragement. PERSONAL TRAGEDY can isolate us from the rest of the world. Sometimes, just knowing that you're not alone can be the beginning of healing.
I am only one small voice in a great BIG cyberspace. I am trusting that you will find me if you are supposed to find me. Not everything I write will speak to your situation and that's okay. Take what you can use and leave what you don't need. Always be tender with yourself. If any topic or post is too upsetting, please stop reading. It's okay to move on to something else. Hopefully you will find things that will be of value to you.
I am glad to hear from you and welcome your comments. I will be happy to offer my opinion or exchange ideas but nothing I write should ever take the place of qualified professionals. I want to encourage you to seek help in your community. Your safety and well-being are important to me.
One more thing ... The names have been changed in my personal history as well as any of the histories shared by others. I am not responsible for the details or content of anyone else's story. Please do not ask for real names or inquire about other people's email addresses. The privacy of all readers and contributors is absolutely essential. If you would like to submit something that helped you or might add to another's HEALING, you can send it to me at kktaylorcc@aol.com.
Thank You!
Taylor
To make it easier for you to find topics that might interest you, here is a list of previous posts:
NOVEMBER ~ 2005
11-15-2005 Welcome To My Journal
11-17-2005 What I Know Now That I Didn't Know Then
11-18-2005 Aydan ... The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
11-19-2005 Let's Talk About Those Red Flags
11-20-2005 I Went To Save Aydan & Saved Myself Instead
11-21-2005 Why Did He DO That?
11-22-2005 The Rules Of The Game (The Legal Process)
11-23-2005 Why Did I FEEL This?
11-24-2005 Happy Thanksgiving!
11-25-2005 The Roller Coaster Ride Called Recovery
11-26-2005 Abusers, Narcissists & Sociopaths
11-27-2005 Co-Dependency?
11-28-2005 I'm Going To Sit Right Down & Write Myself A Letter
11-29-2005 Filling Up The Spaces
11-30-2005 Getting The Support You Need
DECEMBER ~ 2005
12-01-2005 What Do YOU Want?
12-02-2005 FORGIVENESS
12-03-2005 Good Books To Help YouHeal
12-04-2005 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL NOTES
12-05-2005 I Can CLAIM IT & SO CAN YOU !!!
12-06-2005 The Four Agreements
12-07-2005 Letting Go
12-09-2005 A Visit With The Cedar Waxwings
12-10-2005 Questions, Questions & More Questions =
Answers That Work For Me
12-11-2005 Nobody Wants You Dead. That Would Be A Waste.
12-12-2005 Addictive Thinking
12-13-2005 Deep, Dark Depression ... Excessive Misery
12-14-2005 Deep, Dark Depression ... Transformed!
12-19-2005 Deep, Dark Depression & Dancing In The Dark
12-20-2005 Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited
12-21-2005 What Is Life Like For The Narcissist?
12-22-2005 Narcissists & Relationships
12-23-2005 What Can WE Do With "Our Narcissist"?
12-24-2005 HOPE For Us & HEALING Too!
12-25-2005 Merry Christmas!
12-27-2005 The Sociopath Next Door
12-28-2005 The Sociopath Next Door - Part 2
12-29-2005 Abusers, Narcissists & Sociopaths - Review
12-30-2005 Co-Dependent No More - Part 1
12-31-2005 Co-Dependent No More - Part 2
JANUARY ~ 2006
01-01-2006 Co-Dependent No More - Part 3
01-02-2006 Co-Dependent No More - Part 4
01-03-2006 Co-Dependent No More - Part 5
01-04-2006 Co-Dependent No More - Part 6
01-05-2006 Abusers, Narcissists & Sociopaths and Co-Dependents ...
The Common Thread
01-06-2006 What Is Addictive Thinking?
01-08-2006 Acceptance
01-09-2006 Another Survivor's Voice
01-10-2006 It's YOUR LIFE and You Are SO WORTH IT!
01-11-2006 Please Don't Give Up!
01-12-2006 Lonely Sometimes?
01-13-2006 I Am A Survivor - NOT A Victim!
01-14-2006 SISTERS
01-15-2006 A Survivor Named Kelly
01-16-2006 Are You Thinking Of Going Back?
01-17-2006 Cycle Of Abuse?
01-18-2006 What Can We Do About The Cycle Of Abuse?
01-19-2006 Autobiography In Five Chapters
01-20-2006 More On The Four Agreements
01-21-2006 Getting The Support You Need ...
01-22-2006 Living The Life You Want
01-23-2006 Red Flags & Warning Signs
01-24-2006 Let's Talk About Those RED FLAGS!
01-25-2006 I Went To "Save" Aydan & Saved Me Instead ...
01-26-2006 Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
01-27-2006 Betrayal, Trauma Bond & Recovery ...
01-28-2006 Healing Safety & Taking Control
01-29-2006 Are You HURT? Are You SAFE? Are You OKAY?
01-30-2006 Forgiveness?
01-31-2006 Healthy Relationships
FEBRUARY ~ 2006
02-01-2006 Make It A Good Day!
02-02-2006 Groundhog Day!
02-04-2006 Remember "Play Days" ???
02-05-2006 Women Over 40 ...
02-06-2006 Who Is The REAL You?
02-07-2006 More About The REAL YOU
02-08-2006 "SELF MATTERS" by Dr. Phil
02-09-2006 Full Circle
02-10-2006 The Strength of a Man
02-11-2006 Room For A Miracle?
02-12-2006 An Uncommon Love Story ... My Miracle
02-14-2006 Happy Valentine's Day!
02-15-2006 LANGUAGE OF THE HEART and RULE NUMBER ONE
02-16-2006 BREAK IN THE CUP and INSIDE MY HEAD
02-17-2006 ASK FOR MORE and TURNING POINT
02-18-2006 STEP INTO YOUR SKIN and IT'S ALMOST TIME
02-19-2006 My Blog Name Has Changed
02-20-2006 Winter Gray Days
02-22-2006 Free Roller Coaster Rides !!!
02-23-2006 I Heard A Song Bird Sing ...
02-24-2006 If You Or Someone You Know Has Lost A Child ...
02-25-2006 What Can HELP With The Loss Of A Child ...
02-26-2006 His Armor Is The Best
02-27-2006 Surviving Significant Loss
02-28-2006 Stalking Is A Crime.
March ~ 2006
03-01-2006 If You Are Being Stalked On The Internet ...
03-02-2006 What If You Could Just Make The HURT Go Away?
03-03-2006 Beyond The Edge, There Be Dragons!
03-04-2006 The Mastery Of Love ...
03-05-2006 The Mastery Of Love ... Continued
03-07-2006 Life Keeps Tumbling Your Heart In Circles ...
03-08-2006 Somewhere To Store Your HOPE
03-09-2006 The Start Of JOY !!!
03-10-2006 Finding Comfort
03-12-2006 Dedicated To Weary Angels
03-13-2006 In Loving Memory
03-14-2006 Six Serious Medical Symptoms You Shouldn't Ignore
03-15-2006 TODAY!
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